Hi Friends and Family! We are so excited to share that we are adopting a sibling group of 3, (yes 3!!!) from the Republic of the Congo, not to be confused with the Democratic Republic of the Congo :)
2 years ago we worked with an organization in the Congo called Mwana Villages. We had just spent 5 months in Uganda and were completely broken by the corruption we saw behind closed doors. We received an email from an adopting mom asking if we could accompany their family to the Congo, document their adoption and highlight the organization from whom they were adopting. I replied with a very blunt, (but hopefully kind), email asking how she knew this organization was legit and not trafficking her children.
She responded with an essay of an email that touched my soul.
You see, this woman, who is now one of my life long friends, had been in the process of adopting through another organization and found out that the children with whom they were matched actually had living parents who wanted to keep them but were being blackmailed. This sent my friend and her husband into a deep investigation causing them to cancel that adoption. However, we believe the Lord uses all things for good for those who love Him and this broken adoption led our friends to Mwana Villages! Mwana's desire is first and foremost to keep vulnerable mothers with their children. They offer employment opportunities, training, have conducted beautiful reunifications AND have local Congolese families fostering many of the children from their babies home.
So we obviously fell in love with them, but let's fast forward 2 years to the point of our announcement!
Nick and I became aware of our 3 children's situation and their need for a family and the Lord led us to the question:
"Could we be their parents?"
No. Absolutely not. We could not go from 0 to 3, and we aren't talking 3 babies, we're talking a 5 1/2 year old with lots of energy, and twins that will turn 3 soon. This just didn't make sense...at all. In fact, it scared us out of our minds. We already fundraise for our jobs through The Archibald Project and TAP is completely reliant on Nick and myself. Like if one of us stepped away for a parental leave TAP would stop functioning. We officed out of our house, our 1,095 sqft house...we have one car, and it's small...we travel internationally for our jobs...we are scared of not being enough...we don't know how to parent children of trauma...the list goes on and on and on and on...
But the Lord led us through a 9 week journey: a journey of seeking counsel, fasting, praying like crazy, lots of tears, fighting and questioning everything...He led us to a night out in the Texas Hill country where it was just the 2 of us with His Spirit where He brought us into unity and into our 'Yes'.
It still doesn't make sense, not in a worldly sense at least. But we find that God rarely asks us to do things that make sense. He asked us to quit our jobs and take our nonprofit full time, and even though its hard and scary God has ALWAYS provided. Sometimes His provisions come through in the bottom of the 9th, but they come. They are never more than we need: they are always just enough.
And so we are moving forward to make these children living in the Congo OUR children. We are seeking to claim, restore, validate and never abandon 3 little souls on the other side of the world. We know the road will be hard; we know we are not enough. But we know that our God is good. He will always provide, even in the hard. We know that it won't be all fun and smiles and the beautiful images we see on social media of the 'good'. We know this path might break us of everything we cling to other than Jesus, but we want to go through the fire to be made more like His son.
And so, we have given Jesus, one another, Mwana and our 3 children our 'Yes'. And from this point on will do everything in our power to ethically bring them home.
Please pray for all 5 of our hearts. We are all struggling to understand the waiting period. Our kids are old enough to desire a mom and a dad and don't understand why we cannot be with them. Please pray for protection against lies from the enemy in their hearts, pray for worth and love for their little minds and pray supernatural favor over our paperwork so that we might be able to be together as soon as possible. Thank you!
With passion + thankfulness,
Whitney and Nick